This is my blog (obviously). I've been writing here on and off for years. It chronicles my life from a young married woman, to a first time mom, through my struggles with infertility to conceive my second child and beyond.
Wednesday, June 14, 2017
Book Cover Reveal!
Our publisher was very patient with us--we went through several drafts! We are very happy with it! One month until release!!!
Thursday, June 8, 2017
Release Date and Pre-Order!!!!
The official release date for our book, On the Edge of My World is July 13, 2017! Even better, the book is available for Pre-Order from our publisher, Black Rose Writing NOW!
Just visit the link below to order. Use promocode PREORDER2017 to get 10% off. Copies will be shipped on or before the release date.
http://www.blackrosewriting.com/childrens-booksya/ontheedgeofmyworld
I'm an author! *mind blown*
Wednesday, May 17, 2017
Big Changes
- We moved! It actually happened! We sold our house and bought a new one and everyone made it to the new place in one piece! Moving is terrible! I can't find my stuff! I have a ton of unpacking and projects to do! My new neighborhood is great, though. The house is great too, although we've already had a few hiccups. On to the next bullet!
- We had a ton of rain and then water leaked into my mom's room in the basement. BOO! Our friend/contractor came over last weekend and he and Adam graded the ground on that side of the house--apparently it was somewhat sloped down toward the house, which isn't good. We've had a good 5 dry days but more rain in expected tomorrow so fingers crossed that it's fixed the problem!
- We had to have some electrical work that was supposed to be done after inspection repaired, which was super annoying. Then we had our friend/contractor fix it some more. We'd asked that all the ungrounded 3 prong plugs in the basement be grounded, but the replaced them with 2 prong grounded plugs, which these days are pretty useless! Since we needed to plug in computers and the like, our friend changed them out.
- Did I mention our neighbors are so nice? The realtor that sold the house lives across the street with her husband (who I recently found out is the dad of a guy I went to high school with). Two doors down from them is a guy around my age that works at Tyler's school. He brought over coupons for Macy's the first weekend. We also met the neighbors on both sides of us. There is an elderly lady to one side and a middle aged couple on the other. We are particularly fond of Mary (who is deaf and I'm fascinated by sign language) and her husband Kevin. Kevin found out that our mower had died (literally the week before we moved) and I looked out my back window one evening and Kevin was mowing our grass. SO NICE!
- Where did I leave off with the book? I think I mentioned we were seeking out professional editing. Our publisher recommended a couple of people and we ended up working with a guy named Rob. His price was fair and he was very willing to edit without making huge plot changing suggestions. He cleaned up our technical writing a lot (God bless him, I hate that part) and made some great suggestions that we were able to incorporate with only minor edits and additions, but that I really feel make a big difference. And he's just all around a really nice guy and he really seemed to like the book and admire our writing. He was particularly impressed by our synergy writing together.
- Once we incorporated Rob's edits, we sent the book back to our publisher. About a week ago, we got the edits and their smart-edit report back. This publisher offers this report on all books they publish--basically, it's a list of possible grammatical errors, commonly misused words, works that are possibly overused, and other such things that their computer program can recognize. They are very clear that you can chose to make no changes based on the report. I thought it was pretty helpful and made a good deal of very minor tweaks, most of them on the repetitive word issue. The manuscript went back to the publisher late Sunday night and now we are OFFICIALLY in the production queue! A publishing date should be coming very soon, along with their proposal for our cover art! So exciting!
- I got a promotion at work! I've done the same job for 11 years (at least in title, although the job has changed a lot over the years) and I've been searching for a new opportunity with my company for a long time. It's been difficult. We are a large corporation, but my office is relatively small and opportunities are very limited. About a year ago, my boss helped me make a big push to take on leading the group of people that do the same job as I did. The girl that coordinated the group ended up going on maternity leave (she was the one who was due around the same time I would have been with Gabe), so I performed a lot of her duties while she was out. When she returned, she didn't really go back to doing that portion of her job. They posted the job as a hybrid-type role--someone who would have regular shipping and invoicing duties (that's what I do (did)) and also act as coordinator and lead the team--train new associates, update work instructions, liaison with other departments, develop new process, etc. I am very happy that I got the opportunity and I had a lot of support. It's a lot of work, but I'm glad to be more challenged again.
- Unfortunately on the work front, I'm really juggling things at work now, covering for a coworker that is out on medical leave and preparing to cover for an invoicer that is leaving as of next week. Remember when I did the Canadian invoicing and then went to Ontario to train their new hire. Well, she's leaving. So now I'll be doing that again.
- Aside from that, there has been birthdays, field trips, and not nearly enough sleep!
What a year I'm having! The book, the job, and the house have been things I've wanted for a long time and they are all going to become a reality in the course of a few months! It's awesome and overwhelming!
Sunday, March 5, 2017
Work in Process
We also had some photos taken of use last week for our bio. A friend of Kelly's (my friend and co-author) did the photos and I really love how they are turning out so far (she took a ton and is still editing). Kelly and I both hate getting our pictures taken, but I think we got the best shots possible. Some of the shots were from a park right across the street from where I grew up. The rest were done at a business nearby that is covered with professional graffiti.
So by the end of the week we should have the edited manuscript back, then I need to start going over the changes. We also decided to change the setting from a fictional town in Ohio to a fictional town here in Indiana. We've been hearing so much about the issues from our book here where we live that we decided it was important to "bring it home" so to speak. I'm guessing the editing process will take me a couple of weeks. I'm hoping to get the final draft to the publisher by mid April or the first of May at the latest. That time line might have gotten more important (and difficult) as of this week, because we have an offer pending on our house. I don't want to say much yet, but things might get crazy very very soon so wish me luck to juggle all of this!
Once our publisher gets the draft back, they'll put it through their editing process and then we'll start talking cover art, publicity, marketing, etc. Wow, this is for real!
Here are a few of the best shots from our photo shoot.
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Besties and co-authors. |
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Kelly - The creative mind that came up with our novel. |
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What a cool background! |
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Us in black and white |
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This is probably my favorite single shot |
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Just me |
Friday, February 17, 2017
I'm going to be an author...for real, this time.
So it's really happening. We will officially be authors. Our "book" will become a REAL book, with pages and a cover and our names on it.
Holy crap.
Once we signed on the dotted line, our publisher (eeek) sent us a bunch of documents going over the steps in the process. This will all lead to a publishing date of sometime in July-August.
So it's really happening. I remember sitting in my creative writing classes in college, reading a rejection for the school's literary magazine, and vowing that someday I'd be a published author. For me, it's not about royalties or best sellers lists. It was a goal, and one I wasn't sure would be reached. This is a big deal.
I'm sure I'll be documenting this process here, but I'm also including our social media information below. A good author markets herself every chance she gets!
If you're reading this and have any experience in the professional literary field, we'd love to get a review or quote from you to go on our book cover! You can contact me via our Facebook page listed below!
Tuesday, June 14, 2016
SURPRISE!!!!
Yes, that's right, BABY NUMBER 3!!!
I still can't really believe it. It's still sinking in, for sure. By the way, I'm writing this Monday, May 9th, two days after I found out. This will be published at a later date, and I'm sure there will be updates at the end. But I wanted to document this before I forget any details, because pregnancy brain is REAL!
So I'll start off by saying my cycles have changed a lot since I had AJ. For the past 6 months, my cycles have only been 26-27 days. And I hadn't had a ton of success pin pointing ovulation. I had actually been starting to think I was probably ovulating too late in my cycle to get pregnant on my own. But we were so busy, we basically had been sort of trying/not preventing. I figured once the house was ready we would start focusing more on it.
So I wasn't really focused on my period, but I knew it was probably due around the end of the week before Mother's Day. By the end of the week, a thought had entered the back of my head, but I still really didn't think much of it. I had looked at my tracking app earlier in the week and it had predicted I would start Saturday, but it's usually more optimistic than I am, and usually I beat it to the punch.
Saturday morning, I woke up at 5:30 and couldn't sleep. My brain started whirring and so I got up and went to the bathroom, because I knew there was only one way to stop thinking about it. The trouble was, I'm not in the habit of keeping pregnancy tests around and the only ones I had were from an auction Adam bought, and they'd expired in June 2015. I figured it would be negative anyway, so why not use it up?
Except it wasn't. I never look at my tests while they are processing--the whole "a watched pot never boils" thing....so I fiddled around in the semi-darkness, eventually counting to 120 so I knew three minutes has passed. I flipped on the light and there were two solid lines staring back at me. I think I whispered oh my god a bunch of times, but I was also reminding myself that the test was EXPIRED and therefore unreliable. I snapped a picture with my phone and hid the evidence, then when back to bed. I used my phone to post a picture on my facebook group with my old Infertility buddies. Their consensus was it was probably positive, but to get some more tests ASAP!
Now, I have had a BFP (big fat positive) three times before this. With the boys, of course, and with my miscarriage in 2011. And each time, we had been really trying to get pregnant and Adam always knew when it would be time to test. This time, I had a slight edge. This time, it would be a surprise. So I didn't say anything and acted casual. He needed to finish mowing the grass, so I was going to run errands with the boys by myself, then he was going to meet us for lunch and we would go to the hardware store to pick up somethings. So I had the perfect opportunity to buy pregnancy tests in secret. I bought an 88 cent test to take that afternoon and a package of First Response.
After all of our running, I got the boys settled and Adam went upstairs to work on installing our closet doors. I slipped back out to the van and grabbed the bag with the tests. I put the First Responses and the box for the cheap test in my purse and took the test downstairs to the bathroom. The test showed up positive right away! I had a little moment by myself there. It was really true. And we weren't even trying hard. Somehow, on the day before Mother's Day, when there was only ONE possible day it could have happened, here I was, pregnant.
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No doubt about it! |
So now I had news to tell. I planned on telling everyone together on Sunday, revealing it to mom through her present. I had bought a kit of little foam owl crafts for Tyler to make her for Mother's Day/her birthday (her birthday fell on Mother's Day this year). So after AJ was napping, I took Tyler upstairs and told him the news! We've talked about it before, and his friend Luke's mom is expecting, so he knew what it was about and was excited! He won't stop talking about how he hopes it's a girl because we don't have any girls!
So Tyler made an owl for Gaga and I make two more. On the backs, we put the boys' names and on the third, I wrote "Baby #3, January 2017". Later we were hanging around downstairs and Adam said, "Aren't you supposed to get your period pretty soon?" I tried to play it cool, casually checking my phone, looking at my app. "Yeah, probably today or tomorrow." I said. So he said we should play around that night, because he thinks that makes my period come. Uh oh. I decided I had better tell him. So I said I wanted to go up and see the new closet doors he'd hung. I snuck the test out of my purse and into my pocket and went upstairs. He came up after and so did my mom. We looked at the doors and then mom when back downstairs. I closed the door and pulled out the test. I don't even remember if I said anything. He just started laughing and we hugged and laughed about how it only took once this time around! I think he said are you kidding or are you serious or something. LOL Then he admitted that he'd gone to get a receipt out of my purse and seen the box of tests. He thought I was going to test though, he had no idea I already knew!
So I still planned on telling my mom Sunday, but Adam started saying we should go ahead and tell her. I didn't need much convincing! So I went upstairs and wrapped up the owls and gave Tyler the package. We took it to her and said, "Tyler made this and he didn't want to wait to give it to you." She opened in and oohed and ahhed over the owls. Then I told her he'd put his name on the back. The first one she turned over was the one that said baby. She looked at me and then back at it and back at me. "Are you pregnant?" I nodded. "Are you really?!" Then she screamed and jumped up and hugged me. Michelle came in too and everybody was talking and laughing and I was telling them about the whole day. It was great!
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Our family of owls |
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With the new addition! |
On Sunday Angie came over and we showed her the owls too. She BURST into tears!! I was surprised, she'd never gotten so teary before, but she said it was because she wasn't expecting it. It was really sweet!
So that's it for now! I'm 4 weeks and 2 days according to my last period, but my guess is that I might be a couple of days further along than that. I don't know exactly when I ovulated. My OPK was close to positive on day 12, and less so on day 13, and I pretty sure it wasn't positive on day 11 (which is the day we conceived), so I don't know, somewhere around there. I don't even have a doctor's appointment yet. I called my OBs office but they haven't called back yet. I have a call into my rheumatologist too, just to be sure there isn't anything I should be aware of, given my lupus. I know my medication is safe to take.
So as of now, I'm due around January 14th. Given my history and previous C-Section, I will just schedule this one, which is kind of a relief.
What a ride this will be! Goals before baby number 3 arrives: Finish the house, sell it, move, and potty train AJ! God help me! :-)
UPDATES:
WOW, I wrote this over a month ago! A lot has been happening! Tomorrow is my first Doctor's appointment. I will also have an ultrasound. It's not my first ultrasound, however. This post will get very very long if I tell the whole story, so it will get it's own post that I will publish in a day or so. Last Monday night (June 6th), I suddenly started bleeding. I went to the ER and long story short, blessedly baby is okay! The ultrasound showed the baby with a strong heartbeat (185) and actually measuring ahead at 9 weeks (by my last period I would have been 8 weeks, 3 days then). I was diagnosed with a subchorionic hemorrhage (SCH). It was SUPER scary, but they aren't uncommon. I was instructed to take it easy, NO lifting more than 10 lbs (no more picking up AJ), and put on pelvic rest. We were SO relieved!
Symptoms: Morning sickness started about a week after we found out (BOO!). Also major gas (sorry), sore breasts, serious fatigue and many many food aversions. I'm just hoping and praying these subside at some point, since with Tyler they really never did. No throwing up yet, so that's a plus, I guess. I've been taking the Vitamin B-6 and a half a unisom at night, per my doctor's advice, but it's not completely alleviating it. We'll see how it goes.
FIRST DOCTOR'S APPOINTMENT W/ULTRASOUND
Everything went well today (6/14)! The baby still looks awesome, with a heartbeat of 183. We could see it wiggling it's little arms! When I asked if I was really seeing it move it's arms, the baby bobbed it's head and the ultrasound tech swore it was nodding! SO CUTE! Adorable profile! My SCH is still there and had grown a tiny bit. They'll continue to watch it with weekly ultrasounds until it starts to get smaller and resolves itself. She gave me some samples of dyclegis (which is similar to the B-6/Unisom combo I've been using) to see if it helps my nausea a little more. Everything looks great!
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Already so photogenic! |
Tuesday, March 1, 2016
It starts
I don't usually post cryptic Facebook posts. They can be irritating. It usually seems like the poster is looking for people to press them for details, like attention-seeking. I broke my rule of no cryptic statuses yesterday, though.
Here's what I posted:
I did something very cool today. No matter what the outcome, I'm proud of myself!
Yesterday my friend and I submitted our book to a publisher for the first time. More than two years of work, with the last two months spent getting feedback and preparing submissions documents. I just feel so accomplished, to have actually co-authored a finished product.
We sent a short synopsis, bios, marketing olan, and query letter. The response time is 3-6 weeks. So imagine shock to receive an email this morning from one of the editors! She said they would love to see the final manuscript and that the synopsis was very interesting.
Whoa.
This is happening. No matter what, and editor is going to read and consider our work. I can't really decide if I'm more excited or terrified by that prospect!