Thank you to all of my commenters and (hopefully) new readers!!! It was my first ICLW and it was awesome! I have so many new blogs on my reader now and even more amazing stories to follow. Its really inspiring me to get to work on my book! Hopefully AJ will allow me some time in the evenings sometimes! Again, thanks for reading and commenting and I hope you've come to stay!
Tuesday, March 26, 2013
My adorable children (thanks for the compliments ladies!) Are conspiring against us!
This has become obvious to mostly at night. We used to be able to count on AJ to sleep most of the evening, but lately not so much. Sometimes he falls asleep but wakes up shortly after. That would be ok if he didn't need to be sleeping (because he is totally fussy). He is also up and down more often at night right now. Tyler is also calling for us at night again. I think part of it is he wakes up because we are up moving around. Luckily we can usually get them both settled back down but I swear they plan these "attacks" ahead of time!
But all is forgiven because this morning Tyler informed me that AJ is his best friend. #Mommymelts
Monday, March 25, 2013
Because we've got 8 inches of snow outside. It's a real testament to Indiana weather and it's unpredictability. This time last year we had 80 degree temperatures, and this year, snow and freezing temperatures. Go figure.
We were able to squeeze in a half-way decent day on Saturday, so we took Tyler (and a sleeping AJ) to a quick Easter Egg hunt at a local park. He had a good time, hunting for eggs with his cousins and then running around for a few minutes, but he had a bit of an issue because he wanted to go to the playground, which was PACKED. Ah, four-year-olds!
After errand-running with my older sister and Adam and the kids, I had lunch with one of my best friends. We had lunch and cheesecake (Kahlua--YUM!) and talked and then she did my nails and my eyebrows! Kelly is AWESOME! It was so great to see her. We joked that somehow we became
"those people" that couldn't find time in our schedules to get together! We'd been trying for months, but kept having to reschedule! It was definitely worth the wait!
Finally and most importantly, THANK YOU to all my new commenters and hopefully new readers! I have added a ton of new blogs to my reading list and I am loving ICLW! I wish I had something more interesting to write about right now! Please know how much your comments mean to me and how much I enjoy reading your blogs!!! If you stick around I'll try for some more interesting content soon!
I guess I'm still trying to find my post-IF niche...Am I just another Mommy Blog? Random updates? I'm not really sure. Eventually there may be more talk about my book, but it's in such an early stage right now, and I'm slightly wary of putting too much out there on the internet just now. I don't know anything about copyrights and all of that. Hopefully I'll write things worth reading most of the time, and please forgive me when I don't!
I leave you with a pic of my loves!
Thursday, March 21, 2013
Now on to today's post!
The other day, I was reading a blog that I was linked to from another blog I read faithfully. The post can be found here and it really struck a chord with me. She is in the early stages of pregnancy after having struggled with infertility for several years. She talks about an encounter with her boss, who has just told her that another of their coworkers had just announced that she was pregnant after a struggle with infertility. She commented that it seemed as if starting work there triggered fertility trouble. Her boss pointed out that she was now pregnant, as if the fact that she had achieved pregnancy erased what she had been through trying to get there. Read the full post for the whole story.
I left this comment:
Once an infertile, always an infertile. Even when you reach that goal and get that take home baby, you can never forget what you've been through, how it felt. And that dark time isn't diminished, even by the joy of the birth of the baby you longed for. There are so many different "degrees" of infertility, everyone has a story, but even with all the happy endings, we all still know a pain that can never be understood by anyone else but another infertile. No one can take the journey away from you. It's made you who you are.
I really feel that way. A few weeks ago, while jotting down an intro for my chapter in my book, I wrote that I had some reservations about including my own journey. After all, I had a child before I came up against infertility. I "only" struggled with infertility for 19 months. I "only" had one early miscarriage. And now I have my second healthy baby.
But you know what I realized? There is no such thing as a little bit infertile or a small loss. I will never forget that part of my life and I am a different person for having experienced it. Even if I never try for another child I still remember what that felt like. I realize that I am "lucky" in terms of infertility. It can be so much worse. That's why I want to write the book. But what has driven me to want to write it all goes back to my own struggle. I never would have heard and read so many stories and met so many incredibly strong women if I hadn't gone though it. I love my kids in a different way. It has made me appreciate my time with them even more.
We all have the same goal. Some of us reach the finish line and some don't. I wish it wasn't that way. But the lucky ones weren't always lucky and we've all felt the pain associated with IF. It's not something that we could leave behind. And, though it seems strange, I don't think I would want to.
Monday, March 18, 2013
The first week was work related stresses and several people I know losing loved ones. One was the 26 year old seemingly-healthy son of a former coworker. That one really struck me because the son was young and fit and had his whole life ahead of him. It really made me hug my little guys even tighter than usual. At work, my employer let a coworker go and that meant a lot of restructuring and backpeddling and figuring out what needed to be done.
Oh yeah, and then Adam did this:
He missed the last stair one night at about 10:00 pm (while playing around with his cell phone). We spent half the night at the ER and luckily it was just a sprain with a tiny little chip off the bone. It actually healed much quicker than expected and seems to be much better now. It certainly looks much better.
Then last week, twin went on an amazing trip to Costa Rica. It was due to a grant she applied for at the college where she works and it was a really cool opportunity. She got a friend's son to stay at her apartment for the week and look after her dog and two cats. Monday night, the day after she left, her boyfriend called me to ask if I'd been to the apartment. I said I hadn't, and asked why. He said that the house sitter had called him and said the animals were all MIA. We rushed over and luckily, the animals were just very very good at hiding. The cats were under the couch (who doesn't look for cats under the sofa??) and Shadow (the dog) had squeezed himself in between a box and the wall. I don't know if he couldn't get out or didn't want to. Anyway, we got him out and thought that would be that.
My older sister lives in the same apartment complex, so she stopped by the next day and Shadow wasn't doing well. He was crying and then had what she assumed was a seizure. Since she had to go on to work, I left work and took the dog to the vet. Sadly, after a few hours and several of what I have to assume will be very expensive international phone calls with Twin, it was decided that poor Shadow had probably had a stroke and it would be best to put him to sleep.
I was just heartbroken that my sister's beloved dog had to leave us while she was so far away. I'm glad I was able to take care of things and be with him in her place, but I know she would have rather been there with him. I hugged him and told him how much we all, especially her, loved him. It was a very emotionally draining day.
By Wednesday, the cold that was creeping into our house had really hit the kids, especially AJ hard. Thursday morning was spent at the doctor's office and they decided he was showing the earlier signs of an ear infection. All of that led to several rough nights and evenings.
Now some good stuff! Gotta focus on the good! In bullet points!
- Twin took Domo with her to Costa Rica! So we might just have a return post of Domo's Destinations soon!!
- I went to the baby shower of one of my oldest (I hate the phrase, but we have known each other since kindergarten) friends! It was a ton of fun! Her little girl is due next month!
- My niece turned one on St. Paddy's day! How time flies!
- AJ is now 5 months old and weight 17 lbs 12 oz!? He's also super long, although I can't remember what they said, so he actually doesn't look that big, but he feels big! He rolled from back to front last week! Just like his big brother he did it in his crib and then yelled because he couldn't figure out how to turn back over! Then, just tonight he rolled from front to back! He was sitting on my lap but lean toward and staring at his play gym mat so I laid him down on it on his tummy. Since he hates tummy time he turned right over!
- Tyler went with my older sister to the Children's Museum and had oodles of fun! :) Thanks Aunt Chall!
- While I have had literally no time to work on my book idea, I have lots of thoughts rumbling around in my head about it. I just hope I can get them onto paper (or screen) the way they sound in my head! I seem to have good ideas while driving, perhaps I need to invest in a tape recorder! Or try out my voice recorder on my phone LOL!
Tuesday, March 5, 2013
Am I the only one who occasionally enjoys inserting a Shakespearean-esque Old English word in modern conversation? Yes? Okay then, moving on.
First off, the boys are thriving. Tyler got a clean bill of health at his check up and they were happy with how he is growing and of course agree he is so smart! AJ still wants to eat ALL THE TIME, which now includes baby food. He likes sweet potatoes, accepts squash, GAGS on peas, and adores all of the fruits so far (peaches and apples). He's seriously hilarious, mouth gaping open frantically for the spoon. He is still having bottles pretty much as often though, so not much progress there. I think (shh!) he's getting closer to sleeping through the night. He's had a few nights that he woke up at 1 or so and we tried to see if he'd go back to sleep for awhile and next thing you know it was 4 am! The last night, we didn't wake him at his usual 10 pm, so he ate at midnight (why? Oh just wait, story coming) and didn't get up until 5:50 am, thank goodness!
So why did we vary our usually religious nighttime routine? Because at 10 pm last night, my dear husband was coming down the stairs, his nose buried in his cell phone screen, missed the bottom stair, fell and rolled his ankle. He popped up, said "I'm okay" moved to his chair and proceeded to remove his sock.
In a matter of seconds, a huge (like think tennis ball sized) swollen bump appeared on the side of his ankle. Not okay.
So off we went to the ER. Mom stayed with the kids, thank goodness. Xrays showed that it's a bad sprain with a tiny little chip off of the bone from where the tendons and ligaments pulled away. He has an air cast and he's using my old crutches (nice bonus of only being a inch taller than your wife). Apparently sprains can take longer to heal than a broken bone, but luckily it doesn't seem to be hurting him too much, so hopefully with some rest and if I can keep him from being his crazy distracted self, it won't bother him too much for long.
So it was after 1 am before we got home. Tyler was sleeping on mom's bed--he's been having some bad dreams at night lately and when he does he wants Daddy right now, and no one else will do. He woke up while we were gone, so she just kept him downstairs so he could see us when we got home. AJ was asleep in the pack n play. By the time I got Adam settled and the kids to their rooms, it was after 1:30. Then I was keyed up, so it took awhile to get to sleep.
So there wasn't much sleep to be had for me last night. Exciting stuff.
Now, on to the announcement...this is one of those things that I am hoping if I put it out there, it will become a reality. I am working on the very early stages of a book. I have written many things over the year and I'm finding that my fiction isn't much of anything special. However, I think I could do some decent non-fiction. I'm drawn in particular to the stories I read on forums and blogs, stories of infertility and pregnancy loss. So I have decided to do a collection of personal stories of woman who have struggled with IF or losses. Several friends on my favorite forum have already volunteered to contribute and I plan to reach out to some of the blogs I read as well. Hopefully some of them will be interested.
Obviously this will be a long process. I have to gather the stories, then write them in my own words. I also want to include a collection of advice/words of wisdom/encouragement from members of the online IF community. I'm thinking of doing a questionnaire and then probably interviews. I'm realizing there are so many stories I want to tell, so many perspectives, it's overwhelming! I want something every woman can relate to. I can't quite estimate how many stories I'll have room for. I may have to edit more than I'd like or heck, maybe it'll be a series!
If you are reading this and interested in sharing your story, please contact me. Identities can be kept anonymous if desired.
And now I am going to doze on the couch until bedtime and pray that wannabe snowpocalypse 2013 is cleared up by morning