Tuesday, June 14, 2011

All the things I never say

It occurred to me tonight that I'm always not saying something.  I'm diplomatic and I tend to avoid conflict so I usually bite my tongue.  I don't admit things to coworkers if I think they may think less of me.  I don't tell a friend or family member just how much that thing they said or did hurt me.  It's not that I'm dishonest about it, I just avoid being truly honest.  Why am I like that?  For the most part, I view it as a defense mechanism.  Doing or saying the right thing saves me trouble, pain, and quite possibly the loss of a friend or loved one's relationship.  But damn, it's exhausting sometimes, not saying something.


Darcy said...

The older you get the less you'll hold your tongue. Mainly because some things just need to be said and you quit worrying so much about what other people think.

Karyn said...

Sometimes it's not worth saying anything and ending up more frustrated from not being listened to.

Other times, it is.

Start testing it out - find something where you can answer the question "What's the worst that could happen?" with "not much" and speak up. See what happens, see how it feels.

MaryFran said...

Sometimes you have to look and decide if holding the peace with OTHERS is more important than yourself. Becuase by bottling up your feelings and not lettign them out can eventually make you 'sad'.